Let's Hear It For the Boys

Guys more sensitive than girls? Really? Oh yes, definitely. In an earlier post I described how strong and independent the women in my family are, and I really thought the men in our lives were the only wimps, but I retract that.

After some reflection, I really think I have to admit that guys in general are sensitive souls, with hearts that are holding thoughts that women cannot possibly imagine. It's true. Women are more dramatic about their feelings, most of the time, although I do personally know some male drama queens. For the most part though, guys like to appear in control and in charge. But do not assume they are independent and aloof. That is an illusion.

Guys have feelings. Guys are sensitive and needy and they care what women think. Guys often miss the boat, however, because they do not share their feelings. Unlike women who share everything with everyone, good and bad, guys somehow think women can read their minds. My favorite line is, "Well, in the back of my mind I was thinking...." Here's a newsflash...there really is no such thing as x-ray vision. If something is hanging out in the back of your mind, then you better get it to the front of your mind and out of your mouth if you want anybody to listen.

So guys have feelings, who knew? What I like about guys is that they are guys, and not girls. You expect your girlfriends to vent and share and spew and tattle, and gush, and gossip and get over it. You do not expect this from guys..and you really only get what amounts to a volcanic eruption if guys' feelings are really hurt. Remember..they like to stay in control and remain in control, and they do not let their feelings erupt to the surface unless it all gets to be too much.

So, hang out with the guys if you want..but be forewarned. If you are insensitive to those hidden feelings, and you do not have x-ray vision into the back of their minds, their feelings will be hurt, eventually. And if you are lucky enough, you will never know it. But if you waken the sleeping giant and the volcano erupts, be prepared...